. >> ashton kutcher and demi moore seemed to be publicly affectionate. you peeked in, oh, if i could just have that. >> not just that that keeps two people together. it helps. i think that's a big part of our culture problem. >> what's that? >> the media tells us that it's all about sex. sex is a wonderful part of a relationship, but it's one component. you could have the world's great essex life and have a lousy marriage. >> but you always hope you can still have the steam after years and years and years and years. what's the truth? >> you can't. >> that's the end of that. >> you can't. you can have something that's even better and deeper. if that's what you want is just steamy and steamy, first of all, your bodies are going to tell you differently. you age and men lose their testosterone by the time they are age 50, they've lost half it. women go through hormonal changes. why don't you find a different kind of contentment, you know, have those moments when you still rekindle what you have. >> you need the rekindling moments, too. >> you're not the same